Saturday, 15 August 2015

Learning to accept a compliment!

Hi guys,

I think the best way to start this post is with a story. It's a true story. In fact it happened to me.

Once upon a time... Nah I'm just messing with you. Lol ;)

So the other day I was on my way back from walking my dogs. After a huge run in a field, it's safe to say we were all puffing and panting to get up the hill to go home and collapse in a heap.

On the final stretch to the finish, the thighs are screaming, the heart is pounding but you can see glory in the distance or in my case, home! Haha

I saw a few people, so being the considerate dog owner I am, I moved to the side to let everyone pass. As I was doing this, two girls around 15 years old went walking by me and one looked at me and said 'I like your top' I was shocked and just said 'thanks' to which she responded 'it's nice' then she walked on by.

For me this was a moment of panic. Here I was on the final steps of a big walk, I was sweaty and as much as I'd like to say I perspire prettily, I was red! We're talking tomato face people! So why did she say this to me??

The top in question was a black one with a big number 73 on the front. Think the English take on the American sports top without actually being a sport top. Lol. It's great to walk the dogs in but I wouldn't say Vogue were going to come knocking on my door asking for fashion tips ;)

The thoughts going round and round my brain were 'omg she's going to call me fat now' and 'what's wrong with this top to comment on it' now I'm not up on what's hip with the kids nowadays (I mean do people even use the word hip and cool anymore?) so unless the number 73 is the new 69 that we giggled about when I was a teeny bopper, I really couldn't grasp why this random girl would say a nice thing about it?!

Which got me thinking. Why can't I accept a compliment for what it it? Why did I spend the rest of my walk home, second and third guessing a small comment, whilst also trying to suck in my tummy?

It just made me feel sad that a nice comment or action had to be dissected to find the 'true' meaning behind those seemingly innocent words. 

When I say someone looks pretty or has a nice outfit, I genuinely mean what I'm saying. So why didn't I believe this about my top? I think the problem isn't thinking that someone is then going to shout 'shame you look like Shamu left the ocean' but that I am worth a nice word.

I'm going to work on this self esteem issue and accept compliments for what they are and maybe, just maybe that girl did like my top :)

Much Love, 

Bex x

6 comments:

  1. I do the exact same, I'm so guilty of second guessing people I just shrug compliments off haha!
    P.s I'm sure your top looked fab xx

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    1. It's a bad habit right? Ha the top was ok, I guess? Haha x

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  2. This is such a lovely and useful post! You are amazing and I think you need to take credit of that more :D xx

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    1. Thank you so much lovely. Your words mean so much to me :) x

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  3. I do the same. I suck at taking compliments and usually think they're joking. However you are awesome
    Beth x
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    1. Awww! You are fabulous!! Oh an I'm not joking :) x

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