Friday, 13 March 2015

The Fat Dilemma

Hi guys,

I wanted to touch on something today. FAT. When did saying that word become this horrible insult that can cripple you with insecurity and give the speaker power over your emotions?

When did fat become an insult?

I've always been one of those people who can admit things about herself. Yes I'm fat, that doesn't make me stupid or a mean person. 

Fat is being bigger than your body is naturally meant to be. The dictionary definition: having a large amount of excess flesh. 

Not saying everyone should be a size 10 with a thigh gap. Let's be realistic. Just like it was stupid that Hitler wanted an aryan race, it's silly to think everyone fits into the same mould. Be that weight, size, height, hair colour, religion etc etc so on and so forth.

I've noticed that people treat this word like you're swearing. Why is stating the obvious so bad? Am I insulting someone if I see a blonde girl and say you have blonde hair? No I'd be telling the truth. So why do people get so intimidated to use the 'F' word?

I had to have a check up a few months back at the hospital. Long story short I had a lot of blood taken over an 8 week period.
On getting my results I was medically perfect. No diabetes, no high blood pressure, no cholesterol, thyroid functioning properly etc etc but I am obese.
When the doctor was explaining my results at the end he sort of stumbled and kept beating around the bush till I said 'I'm too fat and I need to lose weight right?'
You could see the relief that I had taken the lead on saying 'fat' and this is a professional man in the medical field. The one person who should state the facts even if my 'feelings' don't like it.

Another incident was in Top Shop. I saw a top that said 'somebody's duff' not being hip with what this means I asked the shop assistant who was serving my friend, she laughed and said it means 'designated, ugly, fat friend' then she looked at me.
You could literally see the colour drain off her face. I imagine she was thinking 'shit, I said that to a fat girl!' I just smiled and replied 'oh well, I can't get that, I'm not ugly' ;) 
I wasn't bothered she thought the top funny, I was more bothered that a company (it's not a top shop brand) thought it was an appropriate thing to put on a top.

Finally I was walking my 3 dogs the other day minding my own business when a group of young guys passed and called me 'fat' I just laughed and said 'duh, clearly you have 20/20 vision'. They seemed surprised I wasn't crying into my double chins. But why should I get upset when they weren't wrong?

My name is Bex, I'm 27, I have 3 dogs that I spoil, I look after a disabled man and help my parents with my brother who has severe autism. I have 4 brother, 2 nephews and 2 nieces with another baby on the way.
I love reading, watching films, make up and shoes! I even love fashion although I tend to stick with black for comfort reasons.
Oh and I'm FAT!

See I didn't collapse into a ball of lard, crying my heart out. I just told you facts about me. This girl is a work in progress. I'm not losing weight to fit societies ideal, I'm not doing it for a man. I'm doing this for me! I want to play with the kids without having a heart attack, I want to rock a little black dress at Christmas, I'd love to wear the shoes I have collecting dust! One day I will :)

Let's stop letting this word define us. Fat is what I am, not who I am and I imagine it's the same for other 'larger' people.

Keep on rocking people! Fuck the 'F' word! Haha

Much Love,

Bex x


  1. Love love love this post! Written so well and so thoughtful and a great subject to talk about, your hilarious come backs make me laugh :)
    Can not wait to finally meet you, WL buddy xxxx

    1. Thank you sweet pea. I aim to please ;)

      Yes the meet up should be awesome! Like minded people having a blast :D x

  2. Great post! You have a fantastic outlook on life and you're right that we shouldn't let other people's words wound us :-)

    1. Thank you!

      That's really nice of you to say. My mum always taught me to look on the bright side. As long as they don't 'lie' why get upset. Lol x

  3. Fat is a very odd word, i honestly do not like it, its been use a such a bad word for such a long time. And its just annoying and frustrating to have to deal with the stupid word. But i loved your post! F the F word lol! LOVE IT!

    1. Exactly! People turned it into this insult and I wanted to stress that the real meaning isn't something to be scared of.
      Haha glad you liked the end. I thought it was very tongue in cheek :p x

  4. Oh my god I love this post so much. Im trying to lose weight but in the mean time I am fat and Im still extremely awesome
    Beth x
    Mermaid in Disguise

    1. Thank you!!
      You are sooo awesome!! My soul sister :p x


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